(You are the Dragon) Stop Microdosing Yourself: Why Playing Small Won’t Protect You
Oct 08, 2025We hear a lot about “microdosing” these days, usually in the context of mushrooms or psychedelics. But I want to flip the word on its head.
I’m not talking about psilocybin. I’m talking about microdosing yourself—rationing your personality, your joy, your intensity, your brilliance—in dating, friendships, business, and life.
It looks like this:
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Dimming your humor because you don’t want to come off “too much.”
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Holding back your accomplishments so no one feels insecure.
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Editing your dreams into smaller, “safer” versions so people don’t think you’re unrealistic.
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Sharing little pieces of yourself slowly, hoping they’ll stick around long enough to earn the real you.
Sound familiar?
The Pressure to Microdose Ourselves
We’re taught early on that fitting in is safer than standing out. That if we’re too bold, too ambitious, too loud, or too honest—we’ll scare people away.
And maybe we will.
But here’s the truth: if someone can only handle the microdosed version of you, they were never meant to be around the full-strength version.
When you ration yourself out of fear—fear of rejection, fear of judgment, fear of being “too much”—you don’t just protect yourself. You sabotage connection before it has a chance to deepen.
The Pros of Microdosing (According to AI)
When I asked ChatGPT about the “pros” of microdosing yourself in dating, it gave me this list:
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You create curiosity instead of overwhelm.
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You’re intriguing, not intense.
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You give space for connection to build slowly.
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You protect your nervous system from rushing in.
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You vet intentions before handing over the full download.
And sure, that all sounds logical. There’s wisdom in pacing, in letting relationships evolve naturally, in not hitting the gas pedal all the way down in week one.
But here’s the problem: when pacing becomes calculating, it’s not authenticity—it’s manipulation.
The Cons of Microdosing Yourself
The darker side of self-microdosing is what I see everywhere:
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You withhold out of fear and end up emotionally unavailable.
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You confuse “mystery” with distance.
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You ration yourself so much that they never actually meet you.
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You rob the connection of oxygen, and then blame the relationship for not catching fire.
And then there’s resentment—because deep down you know they’ve never actually seen you, but you’re the one who held back.
Dragons Don’t Microdose
A friend once told me something that stopped me in my tracks:
“You’re a dragon trying to date goats. Of course they’re intimidated. You’ll either eat them up or scare them away. You need another dragon.”
That hit me hard. Because how often do we lower our fire, our brilliance, our boldness—so we don’t scare the goats?
But dragons aren’t meant to be contained.
The Balance: Energetic Discernment
So what’s the alternative? Do you just dump your whole life story on someone in the first five minutes? Not exactly.
The point isn’t to overwhelm—it’s to stop rationing yourself from fear.
Here’s the balance:
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Give enough to be real, not rehearsed.
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Give enough to be felt, not consumed.
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Give enough to be known, not micromanaged.
That’s not playing games. That’s discernment.
The Audacious Way Forward
At the end of the day, microdosing yourself is just another way of saying I don’t trust I’ll be loved as I am.
But every time I’ve been bold enough to show up fully—unfiltered, uncontained—good things have followed. Maybe not immediately, maybe not with every person, but always eventually. Because the right people—the dragons—don’t just tolerate it. They thrive in it.
So here’s my reminder to you (and to me):
Stop microdosing yourself.
Stop dimming your light.
Stop calculating your intensity.
Be the dragon. The right people will meet you at full strength.
🔥 Final Thought: If you’re holding back in relationships, friendships, or even business deals, ask yourself: Am I doing this out of wisdom, or out of fear? One builds connection. The other builds walls.
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